Forgiveness - the process of ceasing to feel resentment, indignation, or anger agains another person for a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.
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The Bible says; -
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. - Colossians 3:13
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Right now, I'm having a really hard time with Forgivness. Yes, I am a Christian and believe in everything the Bible says. About Forgiveness, the Bible says to forgive everyone, no matter how wrong they have done wrong to you. & that is my problem right there.
I feel like if i Forgive them, then they'll think it was okay to do, & they could do it again, because I won't do anything but Forgive.
If your wondering what happend to me that is upseting me right now oh, so, much - it's something I don't want to say because it's personal - but I'll give you a short version.
This past Summer, a incident in which my Boyfriend & his & my "Best Friend" knew I didn't approve of AT ALL, happened, & still to this day is being brought up again all the time. Me & my boyfriend ended up breaking up over it, but then got back together, but their's still some upset feelings about the matter. I asked both of them what happened & they both said NOTHING HAPPENED & my boyfriend promised on our love that nothing happened.. Yes, I looked like a fool for taking him back after what he did to me, because he, & everyone else knew I didn't approve of it, and God didn't either, but I love him & took him back, but if ANYTHING like that happends again, we'll be done.
Well then, about 3 months ago, the "BEST FRIEND" told me that other things did happen at the incident. So I asked my boyfriend about it & he got mad & said it was a lie & that I need to believe him. & still to this day the "Best Friend" says that other things happened & that my boyfriend of over 3 years is lying to me, but my boyfriend says he's lying.
But the thing is, my boyfriend & the "Best Friend" are still friends? Like they text & speak to eachother?
Let me ask you this, if your "Best Friend" was telling your girlfriend/boyfriend that other stuff happend the night that you did something she/he NEVER want dyou to do.....wouldn't you be mad? Am I just stupid or something? Because if my "Best Friend" was telling my boyfriend lies about ANYTHING at all, I wouldn't even speak of their name, we WOULD NOT be friends. So why won't my boyfriend do something about this? Is it because my boyfriend is the one who lied & is scared because the "Best Friend" told on him & doesn't want to admit it or what?! Why does it keep being brought up if my boyfriend told me the truth?! I've prayed on the matter & done all I can, WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO!?
I believe my boyfriend 110% - I just don't understand. :(
WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?!?!?!?!?
Like seriously, what am I supposed to do? Okay, okay, yes I know, forgive them. Like, I have forgave him, but I still have those hurt/upset feelings/anger inside me. Are they just supposed to "POOF" dissapear?! That seems so hard to do :( God PLEASE help me through this!
Is God doing this so the whole truth will come out? I wish I knew, because it really upsets me that it's being brought up all the time!
& ya know, God does know everything that happends, & everything that happened that night & he knows who is lying & telling the truth. But why can't I?
I don't know what to do! It's eating me up inside, God why does something that hurts me keep being brough up?
So, after hearing this, yes you can see that I'm hurt & that God still wants me to forgive them. But is he waiting for me to see the whole truth or something?
I forgive them, even tho they broke my heart, so then why do I have all of these feelings inside me?
:(
Ugh.
